7 Phrases Christians Say that Are Unbiblical
How many times have you been in a conversation where you hear someone say, “everything happens for a reason?”
The truth is, we have all heard phrases just like this one. We might have been the one saying it.
There are so many phrases that are common in Christian circles that are not backed up by scripture. Not only that but many of them actually violate God’s Word and are unbiblical.
In connection with the video I posted here, I have listed out 7 phrases Christians say that are unbiblical and my brief thoughts on each of them below. For several of these, I have previously shared either a blog post or a podcast episode and I have relinked those resources below.
Why am I sharing on this topic? These phrases are hurtful and not true and I know they have caused many people pain and confusion. If we can get a healthy theology and understand what God’s Word actually says, then instead of causing further pain to those around us, we can speak life and words of truth.
Everything happens for a reason
This is so harmful and if someone has said this to you in the midst of your grief and tragedy, I am so sorry. This statement is not in scripture. Premature death does not happen for a reason. Mass shootings don’t happen for a reason. Miscarriages don’t happen for a reason. Affairs don’t happen for a reason. Let’s stop saying everything happens for a reason.
The lie? Everything happens for a reason
The truth – Not everything that happens is for a reason
God’s will automatically happens
God’s will does not automatically happen and this statement could not be further from the truth. This is a really dangerous lie that Christians believe because it promotes passivity and completely removes all power and authority we have as Christians. It also emphasizes the lie that God is controlling and we do not have free will which I address in the resources below.
The lie? God’s will automatically happens
The truth – God’s will does not automatically happen
God needed another angel in Heaven
What a painful thing to say to someone who just loss a loved one. First, God doesn’t need anything or anyone. And second, when a baby or a person dies, they do not become an angel. This is such good news because that means when you go to Heaven, you get to see your loved one again. Praise God!
The lie? God allowed premature death, and when people die they become angels
The truth – God sent Jesus to give abundant life, and unlike angels we are created in the image of God
God gives sickness to teach a lesson
What kind of awful person would teach someone a lesson through sickness. If any earthly parent inflicted sickness upon their child, it would be considered abusive. Children can and should be taken away from their parents if they are abusing their children with sickness.
God is a good Father – He wants good things for you. Does He want to teach you lesson? Absolutely! But He will not do it by inflicting sickness on you.
“Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” Matthew 7:9-11
The lie? God gives you sickness to teach a lesson
The truth – God desires to teach His children lessons but He does not do it by inflicting sickness or harm upon them
God will never give you more than you can handle
The promise isn’t that God won’t give us more than we can handle, but the promise is that God will meet us and carry us through what we have to handle. We aren’t alone in it — He is with us every step of the way.
I have a full blog post on this topic
The lie? God will never give you more than you can handle
The truth – God will give you more than you can handle so that He can help you handle what you are given
God is in control
I believe when you can get an accurate theology around this statement so much will change. I encourage you to visit the resources below to understand the correct definition of sovereignty and control.
The lie? God is in control
The truth – God is sovereign, but He is not controlling because that would violate His original plan and Word
God gets glory out of you being sick
God doesn’t get glory of your sickness, He gets glory out of your healing. That is why Jesus healed ALL who came to Him! He didn’t want them sick – He wanted them well.
The lie? God gets glory out of you being sick
The truth – God gets glory when you are healed
I know this list barely skims the surfaces. What statement would you add to the list?