Better Not Bitter

Every circumstance or situation you come across can leave you taking two routes: the route that makes you better or the route that makes you bitter. Do you realize that everything you face is meant to build you up and mold you into the image of Christ?

Whether it’s the loss of a spouse, a financial crisis, or infertility your heartache and trial are not supposed to be without purpose. Yes, they can leave you bitter, but do you realize that choice is up to you? Think about it. You get fired from your job, will that make you better or bitter? You can be frustrated, mad, upset, and wallow up in your circumstances, or you can take the opportunity to make the most of your situation as you spend intentional time to make yourself better.

What does it look like to pursue the better route? It’s choosing to thrive through your trial, not just survive. It’s choosing to keep your eyes fixed on Christ, not on your problem. It’s recognizing that each trial you face is meant to build you up, not tear you down. It’s recognizing that your wait is a time to trust the Lord, not run away from him. It’s choosing to pursue thankfulness and peace, not anger and resentment.

It doesn’t matter what it is, everything you face can make you better or bitter. I have had many days that have been bitter, but I will tell you now it’s not a pleasant place to be and it’s definitely not what the Lord wants either. Choose the better route and pursue a Spirit filled life of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control which will all lead to make you better.

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  • Rebecca Jo
    Posted at 09:56h, 08 July Reply

    Its always about attitude – how you come out of things on the other side.

  • Stefanie
    Posted at 09:59h, 08 July Reply

    Thank you for your modeling of what a Christ-like attitude should be. I always enjoy reading your posts. They are SO encouraging, helpful, and puts my heart in check!

  • Carla Sofia
    Posted at 12:12h, 08 July Reply

    Thank you for the encouragement and inspiration <3

  • Mary
    Posted at 15:50h, 08 July Reply

    This is great! I am always looking for ways to be happier, or to continue on in a better way. What better way than to practice the words the God gave us?

  • De Bolton
    Posted at 15:58h, 08 July Reply

    This is very true and perspective can be life altering.

  • Mihaela Echols
    Posted at 21:24h, 08 July Reply

    Yep we cant help when life happens but we can choose to to react and make it better.

  • Linda
    Posted at 21:34h, 08 July Reply

    This is so very true. Sometimes its hard for some to remember while they are in a trial. Great post.

  • Amanda
    Posted at 23:08h, 08 July Reply

    So true. I’m learning that bitter or better is a choice I must make daily.

  • Jennifer DeFrates/Heaven Not Harvard
    Posted at 23:10h, 08 July Reply

    Such an easy truth to say, but hard to have the maturity to live in that BETTER instead of the bitter. Great post!

  • Tiffany
    Posted at 23:13h, 08 July Reply

    I’m bitter about something that happened today as I write this. It’s hard to choose to be better when you’ve been wronged but you’re right; you can choose to be better. And it feels so much better.

  • Kristi
    Posted at 23:50h, 08 July Reply

    There are so many things that could make us bitter but holding on the hope of the better and having faith in what we do not see, is what will keep us holding joy even in the darkest of times. Love that saying – Better not bitter!

  • Laura
    Posted at 23:56h, 08 July Reply

    Yes! Choosing better, not bitter.

  • Sarah Jane
    Posted at 12:54h, 09 July Reply

    That’s when I pray that God would help me to be content and trust in Him in ALL circumstances.

  • Patricia
    Posted at 20:15h, 09 July Reply

    Keeping my eyes fixed on Jesus…❤️

  • Alana
    Posted at 22:59h, 09 July Reply

    Caroline, your last two posts spoke right to me! As I am over 3 years in my infertility journey, I have to remind myself frequently to make this waiting time count. Thank you for the encouragement! I am praying for you on your journey as well.

  • Louann Kristy
    Posted at 10:02h, 10 July Reply

    Wow, I really needed to read this today. A lovely reminder.
    Thank you.

  • Pamela
    Posted at 21:35h, 10 July Reply

    There have been circumstances in my life that my husband and I have determined that would make us better instead of bitter. Only with God is that possible. Bitterness is hard on us physically as well as emotionally. It certainly robs our joy.

    Posted at 06:31h, 11 July Reply

    When my dad died, I talked about it a lot. I went on and on about taking pictures with our dads before it’s too late. One blogger was very against it, and told me to quit telling people what to do with their lives, to quit talking about my “dead dad.” Cut to a year later, and her dad has now passed unexpectedly. She has stated she regrets not having more pictures, etc. part of me wanted to be AHA! See? But I have chosen to be there for her in her time of need and be better. It feels WAY better than bitterness ever would.

  • Catherine Anderson
    Posted at 20:36h, 21 July Reply

    So TRUE! I’m totally related to this. #betternotbitter

  • Rhonda
    Posted at 15:17h, 22 July Reply

    I think that self-effort to achieve the fruits of the Spirit will probably be, well, fruitless. I think that the Spirit lives out these fruits of His in Believer’s lives as we are submitted to Him. I think the more we draw near to Him (in prayer, Bible reading & meditating on it, and choosing not to sin) the more His character traits (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control) will be evident in our life. At least that is the way I understand it 🙂

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