Getting Through Life’s Losses
Last week I shared a post about the 6 stages of grief. Today’s post is from the the next sermon and a follow up to the last post – all related to the stage of sorrow, called Getting Through Life’s Losses.
The stage of grief can apply to anyone: it might be death, but it could be any loss. Loss of a job, a dream, finances, relationship – the list really does go on and on. I wish I wasn’t in this stage, but this sermon really is beneficial for future stages of sorrow I will face as well as getting through life’s losses. Being that I have never gone through something as tragic as this, it’s been a blessing to hear how to go through the process as well as what to expect. Of course the process is different for everyone, but my hope is that this is a blessing to someone else as well.
Lessons Learned About Grief
1 – Loss is unavoidable, but grief is a choice
- Our lives and the world around us are constantly changing. With change comes loss. With loss comes pain. It’s how we deal with the pain that is a choice.
2 – Grief is healthy
- Grief is a tool God created to help us get through. Grief is a painful emotion to deal with, but it is also the most helpful.
- The worst thing we can do after or during a loss is repress or suppress – both which involve blocking out the painful loss. If we don’t let it out in healthy ways, we are going to act it out in unhealthy ways
3 – God grieves with us
- Not only did God give us the ability to grieve, but he grieves with us.
“When Jesus saw Lazarus’ sister sobbing, and saw how all those with he were crying also, his heart was touched, and he was deeply moved… Then Jesus started crying. ‘See how much he loved Lazarus!’ they said.” John 11:33-36
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18
4 – Grief is healed in community
- God created us to be in relationships. He walked with the 12 disciples for a reason, don’t you think we should do the same? During times of loss allow other people to bless you.
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. Galatians 6:2
When others are happy, be happy with them. If they are sad, share their sorrow. Romans 12:15
5 – Grief takes time
- Grief doesn’t last for just one day, it’s a season that we go through it. Grief helps us to not skip over the loss, but to get through the loss. We can’t get past the pain until we acknowledge it and accept it.
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven… a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” Eccles. 3:1,4
How Do We Move Forward?
1 – List the losses
- List all the losses you have encountered. Whether it happened yesterday or 10 years ago it’s still healthy to go through the process.
- Don’t let fear keep you from going through the grieving process.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Matt. 5:4
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me Psalm 23:4
2 – Have the courage to lament
- Lamenting is showing a passionate expression of grief to God
- Don’t complain about God – complain to Him – He can handle it. Share with him your emotions.
- 65 of the 158 Psalms are Psalms of lament. If you don’t know what to read Psalms is a great place to start. Here are some Psalms of lament: 3-7,9,10,12-14,17,22,25-28,31,35,36,38,39,41-44,51-61,64,70,71,74,77,79,80,82,83, 85,86,88,90, 94,102,109, 137, 139-143,145
3 – Ask Jesus to heal your broken heart.
- Jesus came to heal our broken hearts. Ask Him to heal yours.
The Lord is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who honor him. For he understands how weak we are. Psalm 103:13-14
Jesus: “God has sent me to heal the brokenhearted…” Luke 4:18