How Can I get more love - in due time blog - christian infertility

How Can I Get More Love?

How Can I get more love - in due time blog - christian infertility

Can we just all agree that I have the best husband ever? I know, I know, you do too! That is what is great about marriage is we can all individually think we have the best wife or best husband. And you know what? I think that should be celebrated more so excuse me while I take a second to brag about mine.

Colby absolutely smothers me with love every single day. Despite that he works hard day in and day out, he still comes home and takes care of me and does the dishes and gets the mail and helps with dinner and laundry and vacuuming and all the other things too. He greets me at the door when I come back home from a night out to retrieve my purse among other things so I don’t have to carry them inside. He brings me water for my nightstand. He asks me “what can I do to love you best today?” because his main goal every day is to serve and love me. That is his priority and it’s very obvious by his actions and words. I have never once had to question how much Colby loves me because he makes it very clear every single day.

I should probably be embarrassed with what am I about to tell you, but since I am a girl I am allowed to be a little silly and dramatic right? Despite how much Colby smothers me I have been known to ask a time or two “how can I get more love?” And his answer is always the same.

“That isn’t possible. All I want is more time with you. I just want to be together more.”

The reality is that Colby’s love for me is maxed out. There is nothing I can do to earn more love from him. I don’t have to work at it. I don’t have to check off a to-do list. At the end of the day all Colby really wants is for me to spend time with him and if it were up to him, it would be 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Do you realize that God is the same way? So many people probably ask him the same question, “what do I have to do to receive more love from you?” or “how can I get more love?” and the answer is there is nothing you can or need to do. Just as the only way Colby and I’s relationship will grow is to spend more time together, your relationship with your Heavenly Father is the exact same way. Above anything else all Father desires is time with you through prayer, worship, and the Word. He desires to spend every second of every day with you. 10 minutes in the morning isn’t going to cut it. Do you think you would really know someone on an intimate level by just spending 10 minutes a day together? Realistically, although you might know them, it won’t be well.

I want to remind you that you don’t have to earn God’s love because he already loves you. You don’t have to ask for more of God’s love because he already loves you. What God desires more than anything as your Father is you. More time with you. More conversation with you. Your presence is his present and his presence is your present. There is nothing God desires more than spending 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with you! It’s time to surrender your striving and questioning and instead pursue a relationship with the One who couldn’t possibly love you any more than he already does.


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  • anna
    Posted at 20:54h, 24 August Reply

    Wow… this is beautifully written!!!!
    thank you for sharing this!

  • Doris Cush
    Posted at 19:02h, 26 August Reply

    Caroline: Well said! More time with us. That’s all.

  • Rhonda G
    Posted at 13:56h, 29 January Reply

    Good analogy.
    My main love language is the same as Colby’s – Quality Time. My other love language is Giving & Receiving Gifts. My husband’s main love language is Words of Affirmation. His other one is Touch. Neither of us is big on Acts of Service – which is why our house is a mess, LOL!

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