How to Overcome Disappointment

We all get disappointed, right? It might be over something minor like canceled weekend plans, but other times it might be much larger like waiting four years to have children. Either way, have you been disappointed lately? I know I have on several various occasions and if I were completely honest those feelings as of lately occur monthly when I realize once again, I am still not pregnant. But, regardless of what it is or what you are facing, I am sure I am not the only one who faces disappointment, right?

So what happens when you become disappointed, but don’t take action to process those feelings? Disappointment can certainly open up an opportunity for the enemy to use your open wounds and frustrations and encourage you to believe lies instead. He will do whatever it takes to encourage you to build a case against God. When disappointment overwhelms you, you might be tempted to blame God, but remember it’s the last thing you should do. It gets you no where, right? Actually, it’s the worst thing you can do!

So what should you do? I have listened to this quick sermon by Bill Johnson 10-20 times over the past week and I love the actions Bill gives when one is facing disappointment. First up? Get honest with God. It’s always good and important to be real with your feelings, but make sure it’s a productive process and not a time to complain and whine. After all, your feelings are valid and God already knows what you are feeling so share the raw thoughts you are having. After you release all your thoughts to God try to pinpoint what brought on those feelings. When you do, renounce any lie or negative spirit you have believed, and close the door to the enemy. This action will break off any attack of the enemy and open the communication lines with God.

Remember if you are in conflict today the problem is not with God so don’t approach him with accusations, but approach him as the faithful Father that he is. Don’t become offended by focusing on what hasn’t happened, but trust that despite what happens that disappoints you, God is still good! No matter how hurt or down you are, make sure you seek a heart of praise and continue to declare his goodness to be true.

Disappointment will come. It’s inevitable, but when those feelings come, don’t focus on what God hasn’t done, but choose to focus on what he has done. God wants to redeem and heal every situation, so no matter how much it might sting now don’t waste a day without having hope of healing and restoration. Don’t focus on all the let downs of your past because God can turn your circumstances around in a minute. Get with God and ask him to guide you through letting go of the past disappointments as he blesses you with an abundance of hope for the future.

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  • Rebecca Jo
    Posted at 07:46h, 06 July Reply

    Disappointment is definitely a foothold the devil can take advantage of.
    I’ve got to listen to that message you mentioned. I love good sermons to get me through a day.

  • Keri Underwood
    Posted at 08:36h, 06 July Reply

    I think sometimes we feel bad for feeling bad if ya know what I mean. We feel guilty for feeling disappointed or sad or angry. It’s almost like we don’t think we are allowed to have negative feelings as Christians. God hasn’t called us to be happy-go-lucky all the time. We WILL have varying emotions. I love your gentle words of truth here 🙂

  • Lindsey
    Posted at 08:39h, 06 July Reply

    Amen! God is still good! I just posted about this a few days ago because I was dealing with some disappointment in prayers for change I’m not yet seeing. Thank you for sharing!

  • Cheryl Smith
    Posted at 09:39h, 06 July Reply

    I sure needed this one today, sweet friend. I love the suggestions you presented. It is human nature to start blaming God, because we all know that He is able to do anything, including prevent our disappointments. But, He “does all things well”, and even though, we may never know the purpose for some of our disappointments, sometimes He does reveal the reasons later. One thing I have learned…we sing a song that says, “And in mercy His wisdom the flames may have sent, that my soul greater woe might be spared.” I know it sounds absurd, but sometimes He allows one disappointment to protect us from something worse…from “a greater woe”. This is where trust comes in. It isn’t easy when trusting God takes us on a path that is contrary to what WE want. But, at the end of the day, His way is always best. I do hope and pray that you soon receive the desires of your heart. I pray for you often.

  • Kristin
    Posted at 10:42h, 06 July Reply

    I needed this kick in the rear today. Been having a bit of a pity party since our most recent ivf failure. Thanks for sharing practical tips to get me started. Time to give it to God and rest in him. As always, I appreciate your candor.

  • Kelli {A Deeper Joy}
    Posted at 11:03h, 06 July Reply

    Disappointment is definitely tough. I’ve been pretty disappointed with our church family, as many people have said they want to support us in our foster journey, but only 1 person has actually acted on it tangibly. I’m trying to not get my feelings hurt, but I feel really overwhelmed and ready to quit often. I need to listen to that sermon today!

  • Amanda
    Posted at 12:49h, 06 July Reply

    I love that he knows all of our thoughts anyway, so we have the freedom to be honest with him. Checking out that sermon now! I’m sorry that you have a monthly reminder that you aren’t pregnant yet. That is really hard.

  • Tedi
    Posted at 14:08h, 06 July Reply

    Caroline! This post is what I desperately needed today! After our appointment with our IVF coordinator yesterday I kept feeling like I was being told I couldn’t do what I love most – and that’s to stay active. It also brought back all the feelings I never worked through after our failed cycle. I was and still am SO disappointed that my first cycle didn’t work. Then I told my husband that my desire to have children is gone and it terrifies me to go through this whole process again. I realized I hadn’t read my scriptures in a few days and I was led to a verse I needed to read to help heal. It’s definitely a process and I definitely need strength to get through this disappointment and move forward with a clean slate. ?

  • Aly
    Posted at 17:31h, 06 July Reply

    YES! “After you release all your thoughts to God try to pinpoint what brought on those feelings.” So healing!

  • Nichole
    Posted at 21:44h, 06 July Reply

    This blog post came right on time for me today. I had an outburst of frustration today towards God and after I vented I realized that despite how I felt His timing is always perfect in every situation.

  • Laura
    Posted at 22:47h, 06 July Reply

    Excellent reminder to process through those feelings of disappointment rather than wallowing in them, which is what I’ve tended to do. Too many times I’ve gotten stuck at the stage of complaining to God about my problems, instead of pushing through to uncover what was behind my disappointment. Great word, Caroline!

  • Victoria
    Posted at 14:14h, 07 July Reply

    Excellent post! Love it. It’s practical. I especially love, “God wants to redeem and heal every situation, so no matter how much it might sting now don’t waste a day without having hope of healing and restoration”

  • Andrea
    Posted at 14:55h, 07 July Reply

    God can redeem in the midst of anything….

  • Carrie Wisehart
    Posted at 16:52h, 07 July Reply

    Disappointment always leaves us with a choice. We can’t choose what happens to us – we choose how we respond to it. Love your heart.

  • Mary
    Posted at 18:52h, 07 July Reply

    I love getting honest with God. He is the only person I can fully open up to 100%…. no matter how I am feeling- and He always comes back with an answer. Thank you for sharing and I will keep you and your husband in prayer 🙂

  • Patricia
    Posted at 19:33h, 07 July Reply

    So, so good! I love how you stated that we can’t allow the enemy in to help build a case against God. He is on our side, no matter what disappointments we face!

  • Clare Speer
    Posted at 20:20h, 07 July Reply

    Disappointments are so very real and I think if we let them linger too long – bad feelings fester and like you said grow into deeper problems…. good reminder to bring it to God immediately! Let the healing begin!

  • Kristy
    Posted at 21:41h, 07 July Reply

    “God wants to redeem and heal every situation, so no matter how much it might sting now don’t waste a day without having hope of healing and restoration.” Seriously, these words could not have come before my eyes at a better time.

  • Pamela
    Posted at 08:00h, 08 July Reply

    I think the beauty in your blog is how practical it is. You give us ways to face issues that we are facing right now. God surely speaks through you.

  • Mihaela Echols
    Posted at 11:17h, 08 July Reply

    I’ve learned to stopped being disappointed of my plans a long time ago. Because Christ has brought me so far. I may not be where I thought I would be but Christ has just brought me even further.

  • Nicky
    Posted at 09:48h, 09 July Reply

    Disappointment stinks, but I remind myself to be grateful for it–not for the crummy emotions, but for the fact that Gid is in control of all things, and THATS what I can be grateful for. How much worse would it be if He weren’t?!??!!! Ugh

  • Rhonda
    Posted at 14:17h, 19 July Reply

    When I am disappointed, my biggest temptation and usual reaction is to quit hoping, to protect myself from being disappointed again. When things go well in my life, I hold back from praising God because I don’t want to be let down when things go bad again! God has brought it to my attention that this way of living isn’t right, and it’s depressing. This is one of the verses I’ve been focusing on: “But I will HOPE CONTINUALLY and will PRAISE YOU yet more and more!” (Psalm 71:14) It’s scary stepping out there and making myself vulnerable, though, but I need to trust that He will always be a comfort & encouragement to me.

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