09 Jun I Am For You
This might be one of those posts that I shouldn’t have hit publish on, yet I think it’s a topic that needs to be addressed. If I am really honest, I am often discouraged with how many people let jealousy, bitterness and the success of others stand between them and another person. It’s not uncommon to see people attack others and put others down. Unfortunately with social media shaming seems to come up quite often. I will never forget one of my friends saying, “you know mom wars are real.” But, I don’t think the “wars” between people happen just between moms, because I have seen it in my own life too. Those who used to be the closest to me have since turned. Those who I hoped would support my blog or book or ministry or social media, don’t.
Why is there so much shaming going on? It seems that people think that their ways is the best and if people choose to go about life a different way, then they are not good enough or they are doing things all wrong. Can I just say I disagree? I’m so thankful that each individual is created with a different purpose. Can you imagine what this world would be like if we all thought the same thoughts? Or did the same things?
Often people ask how I can celebrate the pregnancies of friends around me and my question is how could I not celebrate those pregnancies? I am for the things that God is for. Shouldn’t we be happy for those around us that are blessed? Shouldn’t we celebrate the success of others? Shouldn’t we be excited to see people reach their goals, receive their long-awaited miracle or receive extra doses of favor from the Lord?
However, it doesn’t seem to happen enough. Instead of getting excited, so many get jealous. Trust me, I have been there too. But I am making a public declaration, even when the enemy tempts me to seek jealousy over unity or hate over love, that I am cheering you on and I am for you.
To the woman who is whining because she has 4 kids who are too close in age, I am for you. To the woman who didn’t even want any kids but has 4, I am for you too.
To the woman who chooses to deliver at a birthing center, nurse her babies, use cloth diapers and home school I am for you. To the woman who delievers at a hospital, uses formula, disposable diapers and sends her children to public school I am for you too.
To the woman who works in the corporate world, I am for you. To the woman who works for a multi-level marketing company, I am for you too.
To the woman who is pregnant, I am for you. To the woman who has already completed her family, I am for you too.
To the woman who has done everything to be as organic and crunchy as possible, I am for you. To the woman who eats fast food every meal and cleans with chemicals, I am for you too.
To the woman who chooses to do IVF, I am for you. To the woman who chooses a natural path, adoption or surrogacy, I am for you too.
To the woman who wrote a book and sold millions of copies within the first few weeks, I am for you. To the woman whose blog is a million times more successful than mine, I am for you too.
To the woman who is wiser, stronger, healthier, richer, smarter, skinnier, prettier and more successful, I am for you too!
So the point of this post is to say I am for you. I might not agree with every decision you make, but I want to cheer you on. Let me remind you that as believers we are all on the same team. That means no matter what stage of life you are in, how many blog subscribers you have, how many medals you have hanging in your house, what you do for work, how many luxurious vacations you take a year, what lifestyle you choose to live or not live, I am for you. Whoever you are and wherever you are, I want to celebrate your wins. The last thing I ever want is for shaming, jealousy, bitterness or any thing else that is not from the Lord to come between me and someone else. So if it has before, I apologize and I repent, but moving forward I got nothing but love for you. I want to believe and dream with you. I want to pray and expect with you. And I want to celebrate every one of your wins too, because I am for you!
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