Jesus Calling #9 and Comparison
A friend and I were talking the other day about how easy it is to get caught up in comparing ourselves to those around us. It happens all the time! I think all we are doing when we choose to compare, is setting ourselves up for failure.
There will always be someone prettier, smarter, richer, nicer.
There will always be someone who has a much easier life.
There will always be someone who has a better family and better relationships with friends.
There will always be someone who has a better job.
And of course….
There will always be someone who got pregnant and wasn’t even trying.
There will always be someone who didn’t have to go to any fertility appointments
There will always be someone who didn’t have to track their temperature
There will always be someone who didn’t have to eat or avoid certain foods
There will always be someone who didn’t have to take medications and vitamins
There will always be someone who didn’t have to do acupuncture or fertility treatments
There will always be someone who didn’t have any failed pregnancy tests
The list goes on and on.
That same night after the conversation with my friend, I came across this while doing my bible study. It was just what I needed to hear! A reminder that comparing robs us from all the things God has blessed us with.
And then the following morning after I had the conversation with my friend and read the above quote in my bible study, I opened my Jesus Calling book and read this:
Stop judging and evaluating yourself, for this is not your role. Above all, stop comparing yourself with other people. This produces feelings of pride or inferiority; sometimes, a mixture of both. I lead each of My children along a path that is uniquely tailor-made for him or her. Comparing is not only wrong; it is also meaningless.
Don’t look for affirmation in the wrong places: your own evaluations or those of other people. The only source of real affirmation is My unconditional Love. Many believers perceive Me as an unpleasable Judge, angrily searching out their faults and failures. Nothing could be farther from the truth I died for your sins, so that I might clothe you in My garments of salvation (Isaiah 61:10). This is how I see you: radiant in My robe of righteousness (Isaiah 61:10). When I discipline you, it is never in anger or disgust; it is to prepare you for face-to-face fellowship with Me throughout all eternity. Immerse yourself in My loving Presence. Be receptive to My affirmation, which flows continually from the throne of grace.
Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. – Luke 6:37
My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in. – Proverbs 3:11-12
I am slowly gathering that God is trying to remind me how blessed I am. We can constantly compare and we will be disappointed and frustrated every time. I’m honestly not sure how to avoid the issue of comparison, besides just resting in God’s truths over our lives. My hope and identity must be found in Him. This isn’t easy, but when we put our hope in the world, we become disappointed. When we put our hope in God, we are overwhelmed with love and joy. Even though I will fail, I choose to find my identity and hope in Christ!