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The Only Opinion That Matters

Opinions. Everyone has them. If I am real honest with you, I don’t always want to hear them. Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s so important to seek wise counsel and to talk through issues and decisions with those who will offer wise advice. So important. However, I think seeking counsel is much different than receiving opinions.

Here is the deal. Everyone has an opinion. Doctors. Spouses. Family members. Friends. Co-workers. Google. And I’m sure we can all relate that yes, even strangers can have strong opinions. It’s easy to get caught up in them, am I right? I think it’s hard when those who offer their unwanted or unsolicited opinions are those who are closest to you. Because in the end when someone is going through a trial it’s usually not people’s opinions that they want, but instead they just want a listening ear.

It’s so easy to get caught up in it all. Well “so and so” thinks this and “so and so” said this. But at the end of the day there is only one opinion that truly matters and that is the opinion of Jesus. Now again, hear me out, it’s important to receive wise counsel from other believers, but beyond that, guess what, the word of Jesus trumps every other opinion.

We have received a lot of push back for our decisions to not pursue IVF or adoption. A lot. If we asked each person who we know what should be our next steps we would get a different answer from them all. Doctors say babies will never happen. Family says to do IVF. Friends tell us to wait. Strangers tell us to take a vacation. But guess what? Guess whose opinion matters the most? God’s. Ultimately if we want to do what brings glory to God then he is the only person who we should be listening to. And I say “we” because yes, I believe it’s a decision between my husband, myself and God.

What big decisions are you facing? Who are you listening to today? Are you putting your trust in the advice from those around you? Whatever you do, make sure your first priority is to listen to and please God, not man. You can’t please both, so who is it going to be?

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  • Terri Grothe
    Posted at 10:31h, 14 June Reply

    If God says do not do something you are doing the right thing by not doing it. Never know what he has for you in the future 🙂 Waiting is def hard though

  • Val Coleman
    Posted at 11:20h, 14 June Reply

    Very true! Just read “I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content” Phil4:11 Until God says differently and even then, we find contentment and move according to His will only. Thank you for this post!

  • Meredith Hodge // It's Positive!
    Posted at 11:24h, 14 June Reply

    Yes girl! “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and he will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)

  • Andrea
    Posted at 11:29h, 14 June Reply

    God is the only person that we have to please – PERIOD!

  • Liz Rigby
    Posted at 13:41h, 14 June Reply

    God is more powerful than all other options, and His words themselves speak life! Keep strong, shake it off, be blessed ❤️

  • Kim
    Posted at 21:43h, 14 June Reply

    I completely understand what you are saying in this post. No one understood when my hubby and I stopped IUI’s, would not pay for IVF, and did not seek adoption yet… even people in our family. They didn’t get God told us to stop and trust in him for the next step and His timing. Still years later they still ask why we don’t look into adoption or go though IVF… but we stand firm in the Lord and we know he will tell us what to do in his timing. Its very hard a lot of the time, as I am sure you know, but there is a certain peace in doing what you know God has called you to do no matter the suffering or sacrifice on our part… Its all about HIM!

  • Cheryl
    Posted at 22:09h, 14 June Reply

    Wonderful truth, Caroline. Your words made me think of the disciples and when they said, is it better to obey God or man? I applaud you and Colby for your stand to please God in your decisions. It truly doesn’t matter to a hill of beans what anyone else says or thinks….at the end of the day, it is your decision, and all that matters is that the approval of God is upon what you decide. I can’t wait until He sends you your little one and proves His power in a miraculous way! Praying for you. 🙂

  • Amie P
    Posted at 11:20h, 15 June Reply

    So true. I try to remind myself often to JUST LISTEN! I too often want to offer an opinion also or more so talk about how I have been in the same situation and offer an opinion based on that. Either way a listening ear is the best 🙂

  • Lo @ Mrs. Lo Tanner
    Posted at 01:26h, 16 June Reply

    Im usually quick to quote that God’s opinion is the only one that matters. But when it comes to people making choices I wouldnt have made, its hard for me to apply that concept to my own thoughts. To admit that sometimes my opinions arent necessarily a priority.

  • Kailyn bird
    Posted at 06:32h, 16 June Reply

    This is such a great post! I’m a talker and so when it comes to listening I struggle! Thank you for this!

  • Megan B
    Posted at 08:42h, 16 June Reply

    As someone who has and is trying both, it’s not a guarantee. Too often, I find that individuals think that IVF/adoption are an easy process and a done deal-almost as if I were just going to Target to pick up a baby. I say that, because while I do believe that no one should act against their conscience, I also would like people to realize that pursuing IVF/adoption is not for the faint of heart. (That’s not say that your sense that the Lord is leading you to wait is the same as being nervous about the process, but rather being in the process, I think you really need to believe that this process is the right path for you) I have had three IVF transfers and have yet to hold my baby in my arms. All that to say, your answer to follow God’s will for your life should be enough to satisfy your friends and family, but there are also statistical data that would show that IVF does not automatically equal baby, but it does automatically equal incredible amounts of stress and fatigue coupled with incredible grief when the process fails. So I guess here’s my strong opinion for you ;), family members and friends should not throw either one of those options (IVF/adoption) as an easy solution to an already complex problem. You don’t “just” do IVF or “just” adopt, you have to brace yourself for the emotional and physical marathon that accompanies both of those options, and if you don’t think that is the path for you, they should understand and respect your decision.

    • Stephanie S.
      Posted at 12:17h, 05 July Reply

      This is so true! We pursued both IVF and adoption (simultaneously) and never got pregnant, but after much heartache we have a very beloved baby through adoption. Neither is easy or the right choice for everyone.

  • Robyn B
    Posted at 12:17h, 16 June Reply

    yes yes yes yes yes! And it really is so easy to get caught up in letting opinions in and sometimes they really frustrate me. But then I remind myself that those opinions really don’t matter so I shouldn’t let them affect me by making me upset! good words!

  • Kristi
    Posted at 23:32h, 20 June Reply

    Such a good question! In the end Christ’s guidance is all that matters.

    It’s amazing because his guidance is often outside the comfort zones of even the experts. He brings about amazing things in our lives when we let him have control.

  • Amy Christensen
    Posted at 08:24h, 21 June Reply

    The reality is that no one, but the person going through the difficulty can really understand what they are going through. When my younger daughter got pregnant at 17 and was in rebellion toward God, everyone had an opinion about what my husband and I should do…kick her out, have her put the baby up for adoption and so on. We were led by God to support our girl and now have a wonderful six year old grandson. My daughter is still not following the Lord, but our choice to support her is reaping other benefits, and I am praying for her to return to him. Thanks for your honest post. – Amy

  • Elizabeth Carpenter
    Posted at 10:30h, 26 June Reply

    This is so spot on! The opinions of others try to be “louder” than God’s opinion. We just have to make sure to be still and listen for His voice above all others. And, I completely agree that the decisions made on this journey should be 100% between you, your husband, and God!

  • Cait Vaughan
    Posted at 13:04h, 26 June Reply

    I love how you dicuss your choice being between you, your husband, and God. We’ve recieved a lot of opinions from all different parties (family, friends, church members, coworkers, and random strangers), and it can be really hard to tune them out and focus on the three opnions that really matter especially God’s while living in this crazy, busy, loud world.

  • Lindsay Tankersley
    Posted at 13:32h, 26 June Reply

    This is hard this day in age with social media and things being so readily available. I agree that opinions are ok but they are not answers. Use them as a way to maybe guide you…not make the decisiom for you. During all of the negative opinioms during this past election, a girl at work said it best, “I dont care if any of my friends figure out who I vote , or if they dislike me of it because I am only winning approval from the one above. He is the one, at the end of the day, that I care about whether or not I disappoint!”. I was floored by this and carry it with me all the time. I’m only seeking Jesus approval…not anyone else’s. Opinions may differ…but God never does!

  • Tyler Koch
    Posted at 14:27h, 27 June Reply

    So so true that what we want most is a listening ear! I have heard opinion after opinion over the years & it can be so frustrating! I’ve learned to be better about extending grace & trusting God to filter out the noise 😉

  • Vanessa Figueroa
    Posted at 22:40h, 27 June Reply

    I always remember that childhood saying “opinions are like armpits, everyone has them and they all stink”. There is so much truth in that little saying. We must be wise with who we let speak into our lives… a lesson I have learned the hard way! Great post. Thanks for sharing friend.

  • Lauren
    Posted at 23:31h, 29 June Reply

    Don’t forget the opinions on what you should and shouldn’t eat!!!
    Vanessa’s comment is my favorite! lol. We’d drive ourselves crazy if we tried to follow everyone else’s advice or opinion.

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