What Will Happen When Your Wait Comes to an End?
There is going to come a day, I’m believing very soon, when I will have babies in my arms. I can’t help but wonder what that day will be like. And it’s made me ask myself, “what will life be like when my wait comes to an end?” Don’t get me wrong, I know there will be future seasons of waiting, but for purposes of today’s post I am referring specifically to when my season of infertility comes to an end.
One reason that spurred me to ask this question is a recent conversation I had with a friend. She had shared with me that she was surrounded by a group of women who recently received what they had prayed so many years for. My friend mentioned that even though they had what they wanted, they were still living filled with fear, anxiety and hopelessness.
That conversation, combined with the fact that one day my wait for babies will be over is what prompted this blog post. For me personally, I decided on day 1 of our infertility journey that whether I was waiting 1 day or 3,000 days, I wanted to be able to look back on the journey and know that I made the most of every day.
When my wait comes to an end and I have babies in my arms, I want to look back at the time of waiting and know that infertility didn’t make me bitter, it made me better. I want to look back and know that I pursued the Father more than I pursued babies and because I chose to do so, I look more much more like him at the end of this journey than I did when I started this journey.
Ultimately I want to know that my season of motherhood is going to look much like my season of infertility: filled with peace and joy. Why? Because I haven’t put my hope in becoming a mom, I have put my hope in Christ. I haven’t rooted myself to an identity of infertility or motherhood, I have rooted myself and placed my identity in Christ and in his Word.
You see, I think the problem is many people end up looking just the same on the other side of their wait. Or in some cases, they end up much worse due to the bitterness, anger and hopelessness they have let define them. Even though what other people choose is out of my control, it sure does grieve my heart that so many people miss the opportunity to make the most of the wilderness season. They miss the opportunity to encounter the Father in the way that wouldn’t be possible had they gotten what they wanted when they wanted it. In other words, if I got a baby on day 1, when I wanted it, then I would have missed the past 6 years that I have had to pursue an intimate relationship with the Father, just me and him.
I want to remind you of this: if your hope is in the very thing you are waiting for then guess what is going to happen when your wait is over? You will still be met with hopelessness. You will still become disappointed. You will be faced with fear and you will still be wondering why you feel a void in your life. But if you put your hope in Christ and make the most of the wilderness season you are in, then I can assure the solid foundation that you have chosen to build your life on will still be what you are standing on when your wait comes to an end.
So, what will the end of your waiting season look like for you? If you were to get the very thing you have been waiting for tomorrow, whether that be a baby, a husband, a job, a healing, a house, etc, then what is it going to be like? The only one who holds responsibility for this answer is you. If when answering this question, you don’t like what comes to your mind, then please know today is a new day and it’s never too late to pursue God and root yourself in him.
“So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.” Colossians 2:6-7
“And hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” Romans 5:5
“These trials will show that your faith is genuine. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold–though your faith is far more precious than mere gold. So when your faith remains strong through many trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world.” 1 Peter 1:7
PS. If you are going through infertility, please head over to join a faith-based support group I founded, Moms in the Making! We are having a conference October 12-13 and you are invited!
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