Your Feelings Are Valid

It’s so easy to assume that as a Christian, my feelings should always be hopeful, faith-filled, positive, and my outlook should always be joyful. I have really struggled with this over the years. Am I allowed to have a bad day? How do I navigate all these feelings?

I have constantly compared myself to other people or other situations and when I do, my journey always comes up short, which in turn leads me to believe that my feelings are invalid. How can I grieve something I don’t yet have when my brother and sister-in-law are grieving the loss of their 2 year old son? How can I bet upset that I am not pregnant yet, when there is someone else in the world who is grieving the diagnosis of cancer, yet I am healthy?

Guess what? God created feelings! He created every emotion: joy, grief, discomfort, etc. He didn’t create them for you not to experience them, but he created them because he knew you would need to experience them. He knew you would go through the ups and downs of life and therefore he created different emotions for you to convey how you are feeling.

Even though your feelings are valid, it’s important that you ask yourself if you have power over your emotions or if they have power over you. For example, it’s valid if you are very sad because you lost a loved one, right? But, what if you are experiencing depression for absolutely no reason? Know that your emotions are valid, but if you are feeling bitter, jealous, angry, short-tempered, depressed, or having any other dejected thought then you need to take action to get out of having those negative thoughts. Through Christ, deliverance from every negative thought is available to you!

Do a gut check to make sure you aren’t bound to your feelings, but instead that they line up to what you know to be the truth of God’s Word. By the power of the Holy Spirit you can find freedom from every emotion so submit them all to Christ. Make sure you give yourself grace to grieve or be sad, but also make sure you take control of your emotions and pursue the abundant life God has called you to live!

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  • Amanda
    Posted at 08:51h, 29 June Reply

    I think it is SO important to remember that our feelings are valid. My pastor talked about this once in a sermon on trials and how we can feel like we “shouldn’t” be feeling sad or worried or anxious about something because someone else you know is going through something worse. But we are all different with different stories, and what you are feeling is valid. And you are right: it’s what we do with those feelings and how we let God change us and use us that makes the difference.

  • Kelli {A Deeper Joy}
    Posted at 09:06h, 29 June Reply

    Yep. Give yourself grace. I constantly have to remind myself of that.

  • Fallon {Southern Detour}
    Posted at 09:15h, 29 June Reply

    Such a great post! I am such a tender hearted person so I definitely struggle with my emotions taking over quite often. Thank you for sharing!

  • Carissa Maul
    Posted at 15:34h, 29 June Reply

    I really don’t like the old assumption that if you’re a Christian you should always be joyful, as though we aren’t facing real trials and troubles in our lives. You are so right when you say it’s what we do with those feelings that matters. It’s one thing to acknowledge them and accept that they are valid and normal and acceptable to have, it’s a different ballgame when you start to wallow in them (I used to be so bad at this). It’s reminders like this one that keep me focused on being REAL with who I am, not “real” with who people think I might be.

  • Tedi @ Running with Infertility
    Posted at 20:46h, 29 June Reply

    Yes our feelings are always valid. Like you said, what you do with them really matters.

  • Heather Hart
    Posted at 09:48h, 30 June Reply

    This is so true! God created feelings. We were created in His image and He has feelings. Genesis 6:6 says God grieved. We know Jesus wept (John 11:35). And we know God is close to the brokenhearted (Ps. 34:18). God doesn’t look at us as weaklings when we have bad days, but He wants those feelings to point us towards Him, so He can be our strength and our salvation.

  • Linda
    Posted at 10:00h, 30 June Reply

    It is really important to keep check of our feelings. Also to not let satan guide those feelings.

  • Sheila Qualls
    Posted at 10:02h, 30 June Reply

    As Christians, sometimes people tell us that “feelings” are not valid. I agree with you in that God gave us feelings but we must evaluate them before responding.

  • Mel Thomson
    Posted at 12:39h, 30 June Reply

    Such a great post and on key. I think that the way we respond to a situation is natural. Of course we will worry/stress, I don’t believe that is wrong. We just have to make sure that we don’t let those feelings overtake our lives and lean on God to help us get past them.

  • Maria
    Posted at 13:04h, 30 June Reply

    What an important reminder, Caroline. We can all easily fall into a trap of feeling guilty for things we shouldn’t be feeling, but your words highlight the fact that we don’t have to. We are entitled to them, no matter what everyone says. Thanks so much for sharing such a beautiful piece with us on #shinebloghop!

  • Kay
    Posted at 13:07h, 30 June Reply

    This is a wonderful reminder. People having a harder time doesn’t make our feelings any less valid.

  • Mihaela Echols
    Posted at 15:38h, 30 June Reply

    I agree look st the psalms. JOB or Jesus before he was crucified talking with God. Feelings help us be real with God.

  • Pamela
    Posted at 17:35h, 30 June Reply

    Grace to grieve — a beautiful thought. We have that grace because of God’s grace. It’s through His grace that we can control our emotions and feel His joy.

  • Andrea
    Posted at 18:55h, 30 June Reply

    We are ALL precious to God – feelings and all…..

  • Patricia
    Posted at 02:52h, 04 July Reply

    Yes! Our feelings are valid, and although I sometimes struggle with this too, I’m glad to have God as my anchor.

  • Tiffany
    Posted at 12:12h, 04 July Reply

    I think this is a great message Caroline. No matter what, everyone’s feeling are valid and we need to respect them.

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