10 Feb Your Win is My Win
Even though it seems like yesterday, it’s been many years since I graduated college. After graduation, I had the honor to attend and be a bridesmaid in wedding after wedding. I remember one year, I had over 40 invitations to showers and weddings. My co-workers loved to give me a hard time that I was the girl from the 27 dresses movie. If you haven’t seen this movie, the girl I am referring to is the one who was always a bridesmaid but never the bride.
Well clearly, things changed and I got to be the bride. This current season of life seems to be a repeat of that season. I haven’t kept count over the years, but I have had the honor to attend and/or host lots and lots of baby showers. So many baby showers and so many babies. Not all, but most of my friends have children and some have already completed their family. Just in my local Moms in the Making group there have been 35+ babies. 35!
It would be easy to become jealous in this season. However, I choose to celebrate, because every person who celebrates a win, whether it’s a baby, a job or something completely different, gives me the opportunity to celebrate too. Because when I pray, believe and contend for someone and their prayer is answered, then I take delight in getting to celebrate with them. It’s a joy to watch the Lord pour out his blessings onto his people. Who wouldn’t want to see or hear the testimony of what God has done?
When you are in a community of believers, as I am, and you do life together, pray together, go through the ups and downs together, then your heart is to see each person experience the break-through they desire, right? I want to see others receive all God has for them, including the abundance of blessings, just as much as I want it for myself. Because when the person I have been praying for wins, I win too.
What about you? How do you handle it when others receive what you want? If in the past it has been a negative outlook, what if you looked at it in a different light, knowing that the Father gives good gifts to his children and if someone receives a gift, like a baby, then it’s from him. Do you realize that when you celebrate others, you are honoring God for who he is and what he has done? Yes, this includes when they get the one thing that you desire most.
Whether you are my best friend or I only know you through the internet, please know that when you win, I win too. When you win, I want to celebrate. When you win, I want to praise God. When you win, it’s not just you who gets to see the glory of the Lord, but those around you too. When you win, it’s not just your testimony, but others too. If you don’t yet view others’ wins from this standpoint, I encourage you to do so. It’s much better to celebrate all that God is doing than to curse it! I promise you, life will be much more fun when you realize that when those around you win, you win too.
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Kristy
Posted at 06:26h, 10 FebruaryThis is such a beautiful post.
torthuil
Posted at 07:47h, 10 FebruaryI’m staggered at the thought of 40 wedding invitations or 40 baby showers. I guess I can’t blame people for wanting a piece of your positive energy?? But seriously I think this is one of my favourite posts, There is so much emphasis on tearing people down these days it feels like “your win is my win” is such a badly needed message.
Heide
Posted at 09:24h, 10 FebruaryI couldn’t agree more with Torthuil. This is an incredibly relevant and important message. Additionally, you are such an inspiration in that you are truly living god’s values, even when that might be very hard to do. Thank you for you incredibly grounding and inspiring blog. Know it’s greatly appreciated.
Rebecca Jo
Posted at 10:03h, 10 FebruaryI honestly feel like your IG pics every weekend is a baby shower or birthday party for a baby… & my heart does hurt for you a little… but I do know your heart is totally 100% celebrating with your friends/family. I just cant wait till the day they are all celebrating WITH YOU on YOUR FUN BABY CELEBRATIONS!!!!
Allison
Posted at 10:14h, 10 FebruarySo good! It was always hard to explain to people during my season of waiting why I wasn’t always upset when I heard of others getting pregnant. This is exactly it…even if the person that was pregnant didn’t have to wait it was still a miracle and it deserved to be celebrated and gave me hope that maybe I was next! Your win is my win…such a great way to look at things!
Beth Johnson
Posted at 12:08h, 10 FebruaryCan I just be the real and ugly person on the thread and admit that this is exactly what I’m struggling with right now. I need a heart change, y’all. I have a best friend waiting on her second baby and a coworker to just find out she is expecting her second. I come home and fall apart. I smile in sincerity for them while my heart is completely broken. I’m not strong in this area. And I’m struggling with anger and feeling forgotten, I’m sure that’s related…… Caroline, thank you. You are truly amazing – Jesus in you is amazing.
Tedi
Posted at 14:40h, 10 FebruaryLove this Caroline! I like the “you’re win is my win”. We all are cheering each other on! ?
Missy
Posted at 15:28h, 10 FebruaryMy heart needed this today. Thank you Caroline! My best friend is having her second baby today and I received my monthly reminder that no babe is on the way. Trying my best to choose joy and celebrate with her! God is still good, all the time. 🙂
Joy
Posted at 15:44h, 10 FebruaryCaroline, I just love the fact that you have such a positive outlook on life. And I know that this can only be God. I have been an ardent follower on your blog, always eagerly waiting for your next post. My husband and I have been married for almost five years and we are still believing God for a baby. It was a great joy when we found out we were pregnant in December 2015. I would read your blogs and silently say a prayer for you every time but I could never bring myself to share the news. After 5 months of joy, we were told that we lost the baby during an ultrasound. My husband and I was devastated… Long story short, we’re still hoping and praying. God did it before, we know that He can still do it again. To Him be all the glory.
Still trusting and praying with and for us!
Shalimar Valasek
Posted at 08:06h, 12 FebruaryI love everything about this post! So uplifting!!!
Jojo
Posted at 13:35h, 13 FebruaryAmen! What an amazing way to view things. Always praying for your win.
Elle sees
Posted at 05:30h, 15 FebruaryMy heart always hurts a little, but the joy for their answered prayers is way greater!!
Rhonda
Posted at 17:17h, 24 AprilI don’t think there’s anything wrong with hurting, but yeah this is a good, humbling post. That one line ” Do you realize that when you celebrate others, you are honoring God for who He is and what He has done?” is a good point for me to remember. “Rejoice with those who rejoice; weep with those who weep.” Romans 12:15