A Letter to the Mom in the Making

Dear Mom in the Making,

My heart goes out to you. I don’t know if this letter finds you filled with an outpouring of hope or overcome with feelings of fear or defeat. From experience, I know that the emotions can span such a wide range on any given day. No matter how you are feeling today, please know that you aren’t alone. If you feel like you are, that is totally understandable. It’s hard not to feel that way when it seems like everyone around is pregnant.

I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but your wait is not in vain. There is purpose for your journey. That sure doesn’t make it easy and it doesn’t mean you won’t endure heartache along the way, but it does mean that you can wait with hope because there is purpose to the season you are in.

Give grace to those who give you unhelpful advice. Your friends and family don’t tell you to adopt or to take a vacation to try to hurt you. If they knew how hurtful those comments were, they wouldn’t say them, but they say these things because they want so badly to see you become a mom too. Seek to forgive those people who have caused pain in your heart.

Don’t give up. Keep holding on to your dream. When the baby shower invitations come in the mail or you receive the news of another pregnancy announcement, continue to press forward. If you keep your eyes fixed on Christ, you will get through. Easier said than done right? Some days it might feel like the only thing you can focus on is infertility. But try not to focus so much on infertility that you miss this time with Jesus and your husband. I know there will be days filled with tears, but make an effort to seek joy in your marriage.

I wish I could take away all your pain. I wish I could wipe away your tears, give you a big hug, or even better – pray over you in person. I wish I was there to lift your arms up when you feel like you can’t take another day. The reminder is that you can! The Lord will give you the perfect amount of strength to endure each and every day. And your babies will come at the perfect time because the Lord always keeps his promises; he is never early, nor is he late, but he is always right on time.

Because of the long, arduous and painful journey you have been on, you are going to be the most amazing mother ever. Think of all the ways you have grown while waiting. Wouldn’t you agree that you have more faith, more strength, more patience and more understanding? While you wait you are being made into the image of Christ and there is no better mom in the world than one that has the character traits of Jesus.

You are loved. You are beautiful. You are whole. Don’t think any less of yourself because of this journey. Whatever emotion you are feeling today, please know that there is someone living in Texas going through so many of the same emotions that you are. Even though so many people can’t understand your pain, 1 in 8 do, including myself. Don’t give up. Your wait will be worth it! I am cheering you on and even if I don’t know you personally I am believing with you for your breakthrough.

With Love,

From one Mom in the Making to another

A Letter to the Mom in the Making

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  • Alana
    Posted at 07:24h, 22 July Reply

    Beautifully written. Thank you for the encouragement! I am praying for you in your wait, as well.

  • ellesees.net
    Posted at 07:56h, 22 July Reply

    Give grace to those who give you unhelpful advice–something we all can relate to…and something I need to practice more often.

  • Gladys
    Posted at 08:44h, 22 July Reply

    Beautifully written. Thank you so much.Remembering you in my prayers as well.

  • Ana
    Posted at 09:00h, 22 July Reply

    Thank you for the beautiful reminders! I am praying for you as well!

  • Rebecca Jo
    Posted at 11:03h, 22 July Reply

    I’m cheering you all on too….
    what a beautiful letter.

  • Allison
    Posted at 11:23h, 22 July Reply

    Oh my gosh, thank you. You had me in tears, which seems to be happening a lot this week! Prayers always going your way that your wait will end soon. In the meantime, please know that you are helping so many during their own wait!

  • Krista Nile
    Posted at 14:17h, 22 July Reply

    This is so beautiful. You really have a way with words!

  • Rachael
    Posted at 14:41h, 22 July Reply

    So much love and understanding in this post. Wonderful! <3

  • Jessica
    Posted at 15:18h, 22 July Reply

    Beautiful. Tears in my eyes! ?

  • Kay
    Posted at 18:09h, 22 July Reply

    This is beautifully written and such a sweet encouragement!

  • Elizabeth Marshall
    Posted at 19:57h, 22 July Reply

    A beautiful letter. Thank you for sharing your heart.

  • Heather W
    Posted at 00:19h, 23 July Reply

    Just Beautiful! I love your blog, it’s such an overwhelming experience and I’m still believing in our miracles from heaven! God bless you dear sweet child of God!

  • De Bolton
    Posted at 07:14h, 23 July Reply

    I pray this finds that women and give her comfort and peace in her wait.

  • Kristen
    Posted at 08:17h, 23 July Reply

    So well written! I have several friends and family members who are waiting to become mothers and I can’t wait for them to be! They would be incredible mothers and I pray they will be soon.

  • Pamela
    Posted at 09:00h, 23 July Reply

    A beautiful letter. I’m still praying for your miracle. “I wish I could take away the pain.” I do. I do think RB and I have a stronger marriage because we had the wait, and, like you said, better parents.

  • Jennifer DeFrates/Heaven Not Harvard
    Posted at 09:37h, 23 July Reply

    I know my journey took me to places that I didn’t want to go. Motherhood didn’t come to me the way I wanted at all or when I wanted, but I grew so much spiritually and in maturity that I can honestly look back and say, I’m grateful for the journey.

  • Kristi
    Posted at 11:06h, 23 July Reply

    Beautiful letter…so many feelings and emotions run high. Hanging onto God’s promises and not Satan’s lies are what will make faith stronger and the days joyful while still waiting.

  • Tedi
    Posted at 19:48h, 23 July Reply

    Loved this post!

  • Dawn
    Posted at 11:41h, 26 July Reply

    What a beautiful post, Caroline! Thank you for the reminders of our strength and the hope we need to have in the Lord. Thank you for always writing from your heart and sharing your heart with us. So happy that God put you in my life, Friend! Love you!

  • Lily
    Posted at 22:38h, 26 July Reply

    So beautifully written, Caroline. I may or may not have cried like a baby…you are so strong, encouraging and have such a big heart. I honestly look up to you, in SO many ways. You inspire me daily to be a better person and even though we don’t “know” each other, I feel a connection with you. So much love and many hugs sent your way…how I wish we lived closer so we could actually meet. Your energy and your positive spirit shine through. Thank you for this, I really needed it! 🙂

  • Daisy @ Fit Wanderlust Runner
    Posted at 10:27h, 28 July Reply

    I love this blog post!! Thank you for posting this.

  • Lo | All That Motivates
    Posted at 11:23h, 28 July Reply

    This is such a sweet letter <3 Beautifully written.

  • Diana
    Posted at 19:46h, 01 August Reply

    So beautiful…thank you so much. This past friday was one of those days filled with tears and I pray that God will wipe all our tears away. In due time indeed. Thank you God for your faithfulness and how you connect your children. God bless you for this blog. You will touch generations to come and I can’t wait to celebrate with you.

  • Kaleigh
    Posted at 21:00h, 02 August Reply

    Just what I needed to stumble upon today. Thank you!

  • Nichole
    Posted at 21:36h, 03 August Reply

    What a beautifully written post, Caroline. It was filled with such gentle, loving words for us women on the battle field of the mind. I’m so glad I stumbled into you on IG. I especially like the encouraging message about our journey preparing us to be amazing, God fearing mommies filled with wisdom, strength, patience, and faith – God knows we’ll need those qualities as mothers. I’m rooting for ya too!

  • Angela Nicholson
    Posted at 11:40h, 01 December Reply

    Thank you for th encouragement. You beautifully voiced what my heart is feeling. Thank you for giving me hope and reminding me that God is in control and he has a plan. It so often feels like I am all alone in this. Thank you for reminding me that I am not alone.

  • Rebecca Jackson
    Posted at 13:05h, 25 October Reply

    I just found your blog today, and I have so enjoyed reading it! As a fellow Mom in the Making, I just want to thank you for sharing your journey and your thoughts along the way.

    If I had to guess, I’m thinking you probably already have a playlist full of encouraging songs to help on difficult days. While I have several favorites, this is definitely one of them, and I just thought I would share: Take Courage by Bethel Music and Kristene Dimarco.

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