National Infertility Awareness Week – Infertility Uncovered
Yesterday kicked off National Infertility Awareness Week, which as stated in the name is a week to bring awareness to infertility. The theme for this year is “Infertility Uncovered.” The purpose of the theme this year is to raise awareness about the lack of access to family building options and emotional support. However, there will be enough articles focusing on that, so I want to put a spin on this years theme.
I have been a part of this community for 7 years and have seen and heard a lot. The majority of what I see is women who are hurting, desperate, negative, heartbroken, and who are trying to write their own story. What I see is women who have made infertility their identity and motherhood their idol.
And it reminds me exactly why I do what I do all day long. These women are exactly why I spend my days investing in sharing truth via this blog, my book and the faith-based fertility support group I founded, Moms in the Making.
I don’t want to overlook the reality: infertility is hard and a lot of heartbreak comes with it. Grieving is healthy and important and I’m not diminishing those facts at all. I have been waiting for 7 years and I’m well aware of how hard it is. It’s so hard that I wrote about it here.
But, I want to approach this week from a different perspective and talk about something different and no, it’s not statistics or doctors or insurance or legislature. This is what I want to share with you today:
Infertility is not who you are. It’s not who or what your identity is either. Infertility doesn’t have to rule you, ruin you or consume you. It doesn’t have to be all you think about, talk about or all you care about. It doesn’t have to be all you spend your money on. It doesn’t have to ruin your marriage, end all your friendships or leave you hopeless.
Instead, your identity should be found in Christ. Instead, you can find love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness and faithfulness. Your marriage, finances and friendships can thrive. You can have abundant life and you don’t even have to wait until there is a baby in your arms; you can access it now! And when you grieve? You can grieve with hope!
So this year? I’m excited to uncover what is often not talked about when it comes to infertility. I am excited to point you to Christ in the wait and remind you that putting your trust and hope in Christ is the only thing that will get you through. I’m excited to join you in declaring that God has the final say, not the doctors or anyone else. I’m excited to speak over you that you are fertile and fruitful and remind you that God makes the barren woman a joyful mother of children. And I’m excited to remind you that you are adopted into the Kingdom and the only thing that can and should define you is what God says about you!
This might not be what you expected to read about Infertility Awareness Week, but I’ll be honest, sharing the truth is what matters most to me. It matters way more than all the statistics or politics around the topic. If you are someone who is going through infertility, I hope you access all the joy and peace that can be found in Christ and make the choice to thrive through your current season. I also hope you don’t go another day without support from Christ-minded Believers. If any of this applies to you, please join our Moms in the Making Group on Facebook and attend the 3rd annual Moms in the Making conference. Details for both can be found here.
PS. Have you picked up a copy of my book? Buy In Due Time, a 60-day devotional for hope + encouragement in the waiting.
PPS. I created a group on facebook as an extension of my book + blog to discuss anything + everything. Women only! Come join us!