Why we are thankful for infertility - in due time blog

Why We Are Thankful For Infertility

To finish up National Infertility Awareness Week I am sharing a collaborative post that includes input from many inspiring bloggers on the topic of why we are thankful for infertility. It’s an honor to team up with these ladies on a topic that is so relevant for us all, infertility. Infertility can be such a dark place for so many, but I, along with these ladies, can’t overlook all the blessings that have come out of it too. Even though infertility brings lots of heartache, today we have decided to focus on all the good that has come out of our journeys to becoming mothers.

I have crossed paths with each of these ladies over the past five years. Some are still fighting their battles while some are on the other side and now holding their babies. Either way, each of them know all to well about infertility. This isn’t the first time we have done a post like this and if you want to see the prior collaborative posts, I have linked them below. Thank you ladies for participating!

Why We Are Thankful for Infertility

Meredith | It’s Positive Living –  Infertility has forced me to recognize my limited control over my body, my life, and my dreams. I have learned to relinquish control to my almighty God, and in doing so, I’ve come to know Him in a deeper, more intimate, and profound way. The Lord has blessed me with a freedom and joy that I know I never would have experienced had we had our baby right after we were married. Many don’t understand this, but infertility has been one of the greatest gifts I’ve received. I’m no longer burdened by what I do not have; I’m living in freedom through what I do have as a beloved daughter of God!

Alexis | Viva Good – While I would never wish the pain of infertility on anyone, I am so thankful for the ways my faith was pushed, challenged, stretched and lifted beyond measure during our journey. I definitely never claimed God’s promises or took Him at His word until I was at my whits end, down on my knees, realizing that I was at the end of myself and God was my only hope. And HE IS FAITHFUL! Test Him and see…He is true to His Word! I also was forever changed by the way our friends and church stood by us as we waited and prayed for a child. We had friends who fasted and prayed one day a week for us for OVER A YEAR! Ya’ll…that’s some faith!

Deborah | Fertility IQ – Our fertility challenges have taught me so much about crisis, grief and empathy. I think I now have a much better understanding of how to be helpful to those around me who are dealing with trauma. I’ve gotten comfortable just being there for loved ones going through a hard time, without trying to be a fixer. I’m grateful for gaining this ability to connect with people on a deeper level.

Lauren | Grow My Family – Infertility can be extremely lonely and isolating, which is why I am so incredibly grateful for the friendships I’ve made in the midst of this otherwise challenging season. The infertility community (both in real life and online through social media) has been so life-giving to me. It’s incredible to have the support of other women who have walked the same path- someone to laugh with and cry with in the midst of this journey. These women are strong, loving, and full of faith! I can’t imagine walking through the ups and downs of this season without the support I’ve received from these new friends. I truly feel God’s love for me through my relationships with these women and I am so grateful!

Justine | Ever Upward – Infertility threatens to steal everything good from us if we don’t do the work to take care of ourselves and speak our truth throughout the journey. My infertility journey, although by definition disastrous in it’s failure, was the catalyst for me to completely change my life. Through the darkness I began the work to rewrite my story, define my own happy ending and become the best and happiest version of myself, losses and all. Infertility can be the gift of becoming our happy and whole self especially in our motherhood, no matter what it looks like.

Carissa | Raising Lil Bun – Infertility rocked the foundation we set when we said our vows in 2002.  And for that, I am thankful.  Wait…what??  That’s right!  This journey, though difficult and met with countless tears and financial hardship, has brought me closer to God and closer to my husband.  Without tackling our infertility head on, we might have been lost ourselves.  But with faith, prayer and a lot of science, we were blessed to meet our miracle baby in January.  We never know why we are set upon the path but have faith in the journey and remember it begins with one step forward.

Amie | Is it time yet? – I am thankful for infertility because it gave my husband and I more time together to grow our relationship stronger before adding a child. We didn’t know we needed this time but it has been beyond a blessing! I am also thankful for infertility because it taught me to trust in the Lord’s timing, he knows exactly what we need and when. Having to wait 4 years was worth the wait.

Jessi | Life Abundant – I am thankful for infertility because it has taught me that I simply cannot be in control of everything in my life. It reminds me that God is bigger and that my life truly is more than my infertility. It has taught me to trust Him through the darkest moments of my life… to lean on Him when I am weary… to remember that things truly happen in His perfect time and not mine. As someone who is a major control freak, this trial has been my hardest, yet my greatest blessing.

Lisa | Amateur Nester – I’m thankful that I live in a time where we have options.  My heart aches for the millions of women who suffered from infertility when there were no diagnoses, no treatment, and no empathy. I’m so sad for all of our infertility sisters before us who thought they were infertile due to a curse or God’s punishment. And I especially grieve for all the women who suffered the cultural stigma of infertility when, unbeknownst to them, the problem was male factor.

Kailey | Cheers to Plan A – There is most definitely a long list of blessings I have received since beginning the journey to grow our family over eight years ago. I have to say that our little girl, Evie {we brought her home via domestic infant adoption} is the GREATEST blessing I’ve been given. And I know for a fact that if I would have conceived a biological baby, she would not be napping in her room right now. Her birthmother chose us because we did not have biological children. We thought God was withholding, but really He had the best baby for us. So grateful everyday for infertility because it allowed me to parent the best little girl in the whole wide world.

Lauren | I am Fruitful – God made me brave in my waiting. There’s a line from a song, “You make me brave. You called me out beyond the shore into the waves.” And I understand that because I lived that. And I’m not fearful of anything because I KNOW that God will protect me, come through for me, love me, inspire me, comfort and strengthen me, FIGHT FOR ME. That’s why I’m thankful for that horrible thorn in my side, for that “I” word. I’m braver. I can say I’m a “Proverbs 31 Woman” with confidence when I quote verse 25: “She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.”

Jessica | Grace While We Wait – I’ve walked through lots of hard in my life, but it wasn’t until I experienced the pain of infertility that I began to realize that God really is and always will be enough for me. Infertility drove me deep into the heart of the Father. On the cold, tile floor of my bathroom, through the pain of yet another failed pregnancy test, is where I really found the love of my life, Jesus. I am convinced I wouldn’t know Him this deeply without wading through these waters. And for that, I’m forever thankful.

Tedi | Running with Infertility – Oh there are so many reasons I am thankful for infertility here are my top 3: The first one being that my marriage has grown stronger each year we’ve been struggling together. I think this trial alone has helped us grow together rather than apart. I am also thankful for being able to have the time to watch others raise their children and decide what I do/don’t want to do with mine. The last reason I’m thankful for infertility is because without having gone through it with my husband, I don’t think either one of us would have the compassion and understanding that we need in order to help encourage and strengthen others.

Chelsea | Trials Bring Joy – I am thankful that infertility has driven my dependence straight into the arms of God. I am thankful that infertility has strengthened my marriage, improved communication, and made us both cling to our Father in all seasons. I am thankful for the community of men/women around us that have provided us with prayers, support, and an immense amount of love! I am thankful it has reiterated to me that life truly is a gift from God and HE is the Creator, something no doctor can mimic despite their best attempts.

Betsy | Hope During Infertility – Charles Spurgeon said, “I have learned to kiss the wave that throws me against the Rock of Ages.” I apply this quote to my past seven years of infertility. Although I would never have chosen my life to go this way, my struggle to have children has brought me closer to God, and for that I am thankful. During this wait I have also begun pursuing my dream of writing books, which would have been harder as a mom of young children.

Chiemi | Miss Conception Coach – I’ve formed life long bonds and relationships with women who are going through the same experiences as myself. I don’t sweat the small stuff as much. I’ve developed a deeper sense of empathy and don’t judge anyone’s story. Opening up to friends and family has enhanced my relationships with them. I know who’s really there for me. I have a deeper appreciation for the happy moments in life.

And me? I am thankful for infertility because my relationship with the Lord has strengthened, it’s brought my husband and I closer, it’s opened up my eyes to what it really means to find peace and hope in the middle of trials, it’s blessed me with friendships and connections with women all over the world, and last, but not least, it’s what led me to start this blog, write my book and start the ministry, Moms in the Making.

Why we are thankful for infertility - in due time blog

Our other prior collaborative posts:

What We Want You to Know About Infertility

What Men Want You to Know About Infertility 

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  • Ashley Boddorf
    Posted at 09:40h, 28 April Reply

    This was so beautiful and encouraging to read. I could relate to every single one of you. What a gift to see the blessing in something so difficult and heartbreaking. God is so good!

  • Rebecca Jo
    Posted at 09:45h, 28 April Reply

    This all just makes my heart cry for everyone… such sweet lessons to be found even in the pain & struggle. How God works on the heart. What a community of women

  • Betsy Herman
    Posted at 08:18h, 29 April Reply

    So many wonderful perspectives! Thank you for putting this together!

  • Patricia
    Posted at 15:41h, 01 May Reply

    This is incredibly powerful. Thank you so much for sharing your heart ladies!!

  • Nichole
    Posted at 20:18h, 01 May Reply

    I know I wasn’t part of the collab, but I am grateful to have experienced infertility because it was only then I realized that I love God more than ANYTHING He could possible give me in this world because of the grace, compassion, encouragement, faithfulness, and love He has shown me during my struggle into motherhood. He never left my side.

  • Anna
    Posted at 01:16h, 11 May Reply

    Nice post..

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