A Victorious Mother’s Day

I can’t believe this is my fourth Mother’s Day waiting to be a mom! I went back and read my posts from the past two years. While two years ago I talked about contentment and making the most of the circumstances, last year I talked about taking a step of faith in anticipation while waiting to become a mom. This year I have been asking the Lord what to share about. There have been so many articles and blog posts shared on social media this week regarding the topic. While most have shared how hard it is for ladies going through infertility, I think the Lord wants me to talk about living in the victory that He paid for.

I feel like it’s easy to get stuck in the ‘infertility bubble’, meaning it’s so easy to get trapped in our current trial that we don’t realize there are so many other situations where people are hurting. That is why I am not going to let one day affect me. I have so much to be grateful for and there are a lot more people who are going to have a harder time on Mother’s day than me. My Sister-in-law who lost her son. Other parents have lost their children too. There are sons and daughters with no parents. Husbands who are alone with their children, but no wife. And, then there are the other 364 days of the year. Those are hard for other people too. For those going through infertility, Mother’s Day might be hard. But, there is much more to this world than infertility. The list could go on and on, and the reality is I don’t want to spend time grieving something I have don’t yet have, because I would rather celebrate all the blessings I do have.

I’m not saying infertility isn’t hard. It is. But, there is so much to learn while going through a trial and I don’t want to miss what the Lord is trying to teach me because I’m so wrapped up in my own problems. Is it okay to have bad days? Yes! I have bad days too. There are times when grieving is healthy and necessary and for those going through infertility Mother’s Day might be one of those times. However, I refuse to let one day steal my joy. 

I know my joy is not based on our circumstances or a Hallmark holiday. With God’s perspective we can see beyond our circumstance and know the victory is ours. For believers, our hope is so much greater than what we are currently facing. It is based on God’s finished work already done on the cross. I can celebrate now, because I know how the story ends. I know that I will be a mom. I know that God will fulfill His plans for me. I can stand in a place of victory because Jesus already accomplished it through the cross and being raised back to life.

If you are waiting to be a mom, I guarantee the enemy is going to want to play mind games with you on Sunday (or everyday). Stand firm. Dismiss his attacks. No weapon formed against us will prosper. Don’t let satan win the battle against your mind. Declare scripture over you mind, body, and your situation.

While I might look at Mother’s Day different from others, I hope no matter how you feel on Sunday you spend time with the Lord. If you are grieving, let Him comfort you. If you are crying, let Him wipe your tears. If you are sad, let Him be your joy. Celebrate the victory that the Lord has already accomplished! 

Mother's Day during Infertility

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  • Natalie
    Posted at 06:37h, 08 May Reply

    Perfectly written and just what I needed to read! I couldn’t agree with you more! I love you sweet friend!

  • Ashley Kimble
    Posted at 07:39h, 08 May Reply

    I love this! I have been wondering how I ‘should’ feel this Mother’s Day, if that makes sense. I know it can be an upsetting day for many of us, and maybe because it’s only my second year of infertility, but I just kept thinking about how I wanted to focus on celebrating all the wonderful moms I DO know! Your post made me smile and think about how lucky I am to have these people in my lives and I can’t wait to celebrate them on Sunday now. I have had some bad days here and there recently, and certain things are triggers, but I am going to look forward to Sunday and celebrate those that I love and thank Him for everything we have. Thank you and I hope you have a great weekend, Caroline!

  • Kate
    Posted at 08:13h, 08 May Reply

    I love this perspective! Thank you so much for sharing!

  • Elena
    Posted at 08:58h, 08 May Reply

    I agree! I don’t let Mother’s Day bother me because I still have an amazing mother, MIL, step mom and grandmas to celebrate! Of course my deepest desire is to one day be able to celebrate this holiday for myself too, but for now I wait and wish and celebrate all the wonderful mothers I have in my life!

  • Stacy Maggard
    Posted at 09:40h, 08 May Reply

    Love this Caroline! I got goosebumps while reading…this is the perfect perspective. Thanks for sharing and I hope you have a fantastic Mother’s Day weekend!

  • Kassi
    Posted at 09:44h, 08 May Reply

    That is such a good perspective on Mother’s Day and life in general… Be grateful for what you have and sooner or later your blessings will come. Kudos to you girl!

  • Logan Can
    Posted at 09:45h, 08 May Reply

    Your faith is so strong and is a great encouragement to me. I am sending prayers and love your way this Mother’s Day.

  • Tiffany @ A Touch of Grace
    Posted at 10:10h, 08 May Reply

    What a great perspective to have Caroline! I can imagine it’s hard, but keeping your faith and trust in Him is sure to help.

  • Rebecca Jo
    Posted at 10:43h, 08 May Reply

    Thank you so much for this reminder… & your sweet heart!!

  • Amie
    Posted at 10:44h, 08 May Reply

    I totally agree with you. There are so many others that Mother’s Day is not a good day for. I also am not looking forward to Father’s Day because of my husband and I losing his Dad in February. These holidays are never easy for a lot of people for so many reasons but we just have to continue to put our faith in the Lord.

  • Leigh-Taylor Hester
    Posted at 10:48h, 08 May Reply

    Love!!! I’ve had people telling me (since Monday) how hard Sunday is going to be for me & that they’ll be praying. I didn’t even know this coming Sunday was Mother’s Day…I thought it was the week after! So, I’ve renounced any curses spoken over me about this being a “hard day”. I’m celebrating that my mom is in heaven, I’m remembering her & honoring her, & I’m believing for the day that I get to celebrate being a mom, too. I’m so glad that you shared this perspective!

  • Amanda
    Posted at 10:51h, 08 May Reply

    I hope you both enjoy your vacation! I love your attitude and your heart. God’s perfect plan is already set, and it will never change!

  • Jenny
    Posted at 11:42h, 08 May Reply

    Great post! I enjoyed reading about Mother’s Day from your perspective.

  • Erika B.
    Posted at 12:03h, 08 May Reply

    Thank you so much for this beautiful perspective!! Love you, friend!

  • Tomato
    Posted at 12:05h, 08 May Reply

    This is my fourth waiting mother’s day too. I really love your perspective on this, it’s definitely something I needed to hear. I know I will be hurting a little on Mother’s Day, but I’m going to try my best to be joyful as well!

  • Laura @ Making Baby Provence
    Posted at 12:25h, 08 May Reply

    You said this so perfectly! I just love it. All I really need to say is, “Ditto!” 🙂 I’m so proud of you. Thank you for being a continual inspiration to me! Love you, girl!

  • Marianne
    Posted at 12:30h, 08 May Reply

    What a great post. You’re so well spoken. Xxx

  • Justine Y @ Little Dove Creations
    Posted at 14:15h, 08 May Reply

    What a beautiful post, thank you so much for sharing Caroline. You made so many wonderful points, but I do feel like you’re not “waiting to be a mom”, women like you are already mothers in your heart, adn mothers to those around you, you’re just waiting for a child of your own. But you are already a mom, at least to me, and I think to the Lord too. I hope you have a wonderful weekend!

  • Angela
    Posted at 14:29h, 08 May Reply

    This is such a great outlook! You are so inspiring, your faith and thoughtfulness on infertility. Thank you for always being so open about your journey and sharing your heart!

  • Cheryl Smith
    Posted at 18:19h, 08 May Reply

    What an amazing attitude you have! It is so refreshing and inspiring. You live in the NOW, and you make the best of it, even though it is not exactly where you want to be. It reminds me of where Paul said he had learned to be content in whatever circumstances he found himself in. Having a positive attitude, even in the midst of life’s pain, makes it all so much easier to plow through…both for you and for everyone else around you. You are so right…we all have SO much to be thankful for. Satan wants to rob our joy by continually redirecting our focus to what we do NOT have, instead of all we do. Great post!

  • Jessica
    Posted at 18:36h, 08 May Reply

    Amen! I was just flipping through (and skipping) all the other blog posts because I couldn’t agree more. Yes, this holiday can be super hard, but let’s not make it any harder. Let’s celebrate and rejoice. Thank you for your uplifting perspective.

  • Lisa
    Posted at 12:18h, 09 May Reply

    Beautiful post, Caroline. Such a good perspective.

  • Sheryl
    Posted at 14:53h, 09 May Reply

    This is a beautiful and inspiring post. It is so important to be grateful in all situations. Gratitude and perspective changes everything. Much love to you.

  • Davy Jolene
    Posted at 21:00h, 09 May Reply

    Thanks for the reminder, Caroline. It is so easy to get so focused on our burden, that we fail to notice the burdens others carry. As we share struggles with each other, hopefully we all become more compassionate.

  • Melissa
    Posted at 22:10h, 09 May Reply

    I think that this year I am living a more victorious life than last year… I’m just believing in His promises, trusting Him, holding on to Him. Standing firm in faith!! However, like you said…there are hard days. I woke up Friday with such a heavy heart…it’s like it came out of nowhere because I’ve been doing great! The pain has eased a lot. But I still feel very fragile. Last year, I couldn’t do church… my husband took me out instead and we spent the day together. Our moms understood, our pastor understood. We are doing the same this year. I’m so thankful to have people in my life who understand that. And a God who understands. This doesn’t mean i won’t be spending time with Him, though! 😉

  • Krystal
    Posted at 13:45h, 12 May Reply

    I remember Mother’s Days going through infertility, and then my first Mother’s Day without my sons last year. Such a difference – last year was much, much harder. But I will never forget how hard infertility was (and still can be). Much love to you. Hope you are having fun on vacation! I hope you share lots of pictures!

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