Finding Contentment

The topic of finding contentment has been put on my heart a lot lately. The Lord is reminding me that having a baby is not going to make life any easier or bring true contentment. In all honestly, I think life will get a lot harder. Right now I just have to take care of myself and my husband, but when one or more (hopefully three or four) are added into the mix, it will get much harder.

I see so many ladies who put their life on hold to have a baby. But, according to scripture finding contentment can happen in all circumstances. Baby or no baby. We should be content.

I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:11-13

What if instead of only looking to the future, we all enjoyed the present? We receive so many blessings every day from the Lord, but we are so wrapped up in what is next that we skip over what He is trying to show and teach us in the moment. The last thing I want to do when we are holding our babies is look back on our journey and on our marriage and feel like every day was wasted. I want to enjoy this time to grow closer to each other and grow closer to the Lord. I don’t want to be so focused on what we don’t have that we miss out on all the good that we do have.

I honestly believe we are always in a season of waiting, hence the “In Due Time” title. I watched many/most of my friends get married before me. I waited. And waited. And waited. It was worth every second, every minute, every hour of waiting, because as the Lord always does He brought me someone better than I could have asked or imagined. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us (Ephesians 3:20).

And, now, now we wait for a baby. I have so many friends who are pregnant. So many friends who have babies. One of my closest friends from growing up in pregnant with her third. My next four weekends consist of four baby showers, three of which I am hosting. Despite the presence of babies around me, the Lord has overwhelmed me with a peace and joy. He reminds me that my contentment is found in Him, not based on what doctors have told us or the circumstances around us.

When we have our children, I foresee more times of waiting. Waiting on them to take their first step, waiting on them to say their first word. Perhaps all the other kids around them will have taken that step or said that word way before they do. We wait and wait. And while we wait and looking forward to the next step, we continue to miss out on the present.

How is it possible to desire a baby so bad, but still have joy instead of jealousy? It’s through Him! When you seek Him fully, you will be fulfilled with true contentment. There is nothing else that can bring joy like He can. Not even a baby. Maximize your single days or married days. Make the most of your job. Spend time investing in friends or volunteering. Breath in. Breath out.  Enjoy the moment. It might not last that much longer. Always remember that God has purpose in every day.

Finding Contentment

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  • Emily (
    Posted at 05:57h, 09 October Reply

    “I don’t want to be so focused on what we don’t have that we miss out on all the good that we do have.”

    Yep! I notice a HUGE difference in my my level of contentment during medicated cycles vs. non-medicated, but I’m working on living in the now more and not living in fear of “Will be ever be able to get back to our normal life?” When you do fertility treatments, some things do need to be put on hold. I had to quit my modeling career to gain weight for instance, and that was NOT easy! However, we’ve got to find our “new normal” and be wiling to accept the changes that come along with the path we’re on and embrace it. I still feel like things are a bit on hold, but every day I’m waking up and THANKING Him for EVERYTHING we have NOW. This may not be how I envisioned our life unfolding, but like you said, something bigger and better is in store!

  • Amy
    Posted at 06:41h, 09 October Reply

    Caroline you are such an encouragement and inspiration! Your words spoke straight to my heart!

  • Hope
    Posted at 06:46h, 09 October Reply

    Hey Caroline, I’ve been following your blog for quite a while now, although silently. I admire your faith and hope in God. It’s truly inspiring!
    Your post on contentment really hit home. People can have babies, riches, and a good career and not be happy/joyful and I think that God sometimes delays giving us what we ask for so we can appreciate it more and be truly joyful when we receive it.
    Looking forward to many more posts!
    God bless.

  • Jessica
    Posted at 07:51h, 09 October Reply

    AMEN!!!! I love this post. You are so right. We cannot put our lives on hold during this season. We have to keep on living and enjoying what God gives us every day. We never know what moment will be our last, why waste any of them now. Love you friend.

  • Stephanie
    Posted at 08:55h, 09 October Reply

    Couldn’t agree more! It’s so easy to get caught up in the things that don’t go our way, or take longer than we want to get here, but it takes effort to live in each moment. I’m so thankful we crossed paths! You are such an encouragement and I know God has great things in store for you!

  • Jeni
    Posted at 10:45h, 09 October Reply

    all I can say is THANK YOU!!!

    have a blessed day friend!! <3

  • Becky
    Posted at 10:59h, 09 October Reply

    Amen amen AMEN! I believe so strongly in focusing on what we DO have, instead of what we don’t have. Learning to be content no matter what is so important, because you truly never know what is in store. We may never have children, and I don’t want my entire life to be spent feeling bitter or jealous or disappointed. That doesn’t mean there aren’t days that go by when my longing is a little stronger or my heart is a little sad, but ultimately if our hope is in the Lord, we will never be discontent!

  • Amie
    Posted at 12:58h, 09 October Reply

    Amen!! It’s so hard but I try more and more each day to thank the Lord for the incredible amount of blessings he has given us. Thank you so much for this post!! (Also, in looking at your recommended books I noticed the Joyce Meyer book which I was thought was great!)

  • Sara
    Posted at 14:30h, 09 October Reply

    What an excellent reminder! My sister-in-law is getting ready to have her second baby (she got pregnant with both of hers on the first month they went off birth control) and it has been tough, and will continue to be tough for me! I need this reminder to be content with where I am in life and truly thank God for all of the blessings in my life! Thank you for your honesty through your blog!!

  • Ashley
    Posted at 15:33h, 09 October Reply

    This is so, so good! I wish every infertile woman could read this. While I know how hard it is to want something so bad and not have it, since being on the “other side” (though still infertile) I can honestly tell you that our contentment can ONLY come through Christ. Yes, I’m a mother now but it is so hard being a parent. The only way I can get through each day is to rely on His strength!
    Thanks for sharing this!

  • Camille
    Posted at 19:03h, 09 October Reply

    Thank you SO much for this. I try to remind myself of this all the time but it’s so hard.
    After each unsuccessful cycle I find myself breaking down. It’s hard on my husband and it’s increasingly hard on me. I need to remember to take the time to enjoy this season of life. Your blog is such a blessing.
    Thank you!

  • Ris
    Posted at 22:12h, 09 October Reply

    Caroline, you’re spot on! His timing is perfect, as is His plan. For you and Colby, and for your babies. Each child has a call on their life and a time they need to be on this earth to fulfill it- and not a day sooner! I believe that He will give you the desire of your heart as you have prayed, like Hannah. I love how you are approaching your waiting time- finding contentment and peace while you wait. I find it interesting that God is practically SWARMING you in babies this year. I’ve seen nary a hint of a newborn here, girl- it’s meant for YOU. Seems almost like a test or a strengthening or preparation, or something- I don’t pretend to know the ways of The Lord, again, I just find it interesting. Love that you are clinging to Him during this time and you are such an encouragement to so many, dear one. Me included, for my own reasons. Let’s just continue to praise Him for all that He is, and all that He does, and for being slow to anger, LOVE, ever watchful, grace giving, never sleeping, just, merciful, HOLY, all knowing- therefore unable to be disappointed in us!!!, and unchanging- yesterday, today and forever. I’m trying to spend more time praising and less time focusing on ME and my woes. Lol

  • Rachel
    Posted at 09:39h, 10 October Reply

    I love this post! It is soo true, and thank you for reminding us of this.

    I am working very hard to be at peace with my place in life. Most days I have success, others I pray for strength. The reality is I do have SO many wonderful things in my life, and wishing for more only makes me feel unsatisfied. God has a plan for me, and I just need to trust in that!

  • Sara
    Posted at 14:06h, 10 October Reply

    Thank you so much for this post Caroline, you are truly such an inspiration! It’s so hard to remember to live in the moment sometimes, this is a great reminder for us to all appreciate the awesome things that God has given us and not take them for granted. Thanks for the reminder! 🙂

  • Charity
    Posted at 14:13h, 10 October Reply

    Caroline this post is a great reminder of what I am striving for, to be content. Sometimes I get all frazzled because of dreams I feel are unfulfilled but I am so glad to be focused on what The Lord is doing right now in my life. I love what you said about focusing on the present because other wise we miss out on it. It’s so true. I can look back and see many years of my life that I missed because I was discontent and overwhelmed by my infertility. I am working on being present, content, and joyful with The Lord’s strength.

  • Ria
    Posted at 11:15h, 11 October Reply

    This is so true and such a good reminder of what we’re doing. We’re waiting, yes, but this is also a time to do things the Lord has planned. 🙂 Thanks for this important word today!

  • Megan Davis
    Posted at 17:54h, 11 October Reply

    We want 4 as well 🙂

    Isn’t it funny how we wait for the next thing. We wait for a boyfriend…once we have that we will be happy. Then, we begin to wait for marriage…then we will be happy. Now we wait for a baby…then another…then we pray for grandchildren. It isn’t until we truly allow God to be our satisfaction that we will find the joy we are waiting for!

    Thanks for this beautiful reminder!

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