Redirecting Your Thoughts
When we first received the initial tests results from the doctor we were in shock. We never thought it would take a miracle for us to have a baby. Just as many couples do, we thought we would have kids as soon as we wanted them. Soon for us meant just a few months after getting married. I still remember the phone call with the initial test results just like it was yesterday. I was overcome with self-pity. I balled my eyes out and didn’t want to do anything besides roll into a ball and lie in bed. Infertility is not the only journey that can cause such feelings; it could be the loss of a job, a bad marriage, or a recent diagnosis. However, after over a year and a half on this journey I have learned that we can not let negative thoughts control us.
It seems that every day when we wake up we have a choice. We can choose to have negative thoughts or redirect our thoughts into positive thinking. Those initial thoughts end up directing the rest of our day. And, it doesn’t stop at our thoughts. Because from our thoughts flow our words and from our words flow our actions.
When we redirect our thoughts from our doubts and discouragement to a positive attitude, it not only affects our day, but it impacts us emotionally, spiritually, and physically. I believe it effects others we come in contact with as well. And soon, when we are holding our precious babies and they grow up to be little kids, I have no doubt that our positive attitudes and thinking will change them to become better people too. They will learn by example, and we want our kids to have the best outlook on every circumstance.
All during the day we have this choice. When our plane gets delayed, instead of thinking negatively, why not decide it’s an opportunity to stay positive? What about that co-worker who continually to gets under your skin? Is it going to help to think negatively? Or even worse, speak negatively? Is that going to influence anyone to be a better person? What about when we don’t get what we want? Or on a more personal note, when we receive another negative pregnancy test or bad report from the doctor? Sure, it’s ok to be sad. But having a “poor me” attitude sure won’t get you anywhere.
Be proactive. Not reactive. Don’t let your feelings rise up into self-pity. Instead choose to focus on the blessings of your current situation. Don’t live in fear. Don’t let negative situations rub off on you. Take charge. Start to think positively. Practice it. Not just in the little things, but in the big things too.
So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you. Romans 12:2