How Do You Know?
One of the most frequent questions I receive is “How do you know?” This can be in the context of many things but most often when I receive the question the person asking wants me to answer this:
“How do you know you will have children?”
There are several thoughts that run through my head when I receive this question and over the years I have found it hard to respond in just a few sentences, which is why I decided to write this post. If you too have wanted to know the answer to the question, “how are you so confident that you will have children?” then here is my response:
1 — God’s Word is God’s Will. One of God’s original mandates in Genesis 1 is to be fruitful and multiply. Genesis 1:28 says, “Be fruitful and increase in number.” In addition, the Bible addresses infertility many times, which I recapped in a post here. Infertility is not from God and it’s not his plan for me or for anyone else. He is the one who came up with the idea of fruitfulness and he promises in his Word that he makes the barren women fruitful. I know I will be a mom because his will for me is not infertility but fruitfulness.
2 – God fulfills the desires of our hearts – Psalm 37:3-5 says,“Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this.” A lot of people take Psalm 37:4 out of context and forget to focus on the verses before and after. Ultimately, the Lord will give me the desires of my heart, but it doesn’t happen automatically. In my mind, there are two contingencies on this. First, Is this desire a God-given desire? For what I am believing for, children, the obvious answer is yes because of point #1 made above. And the second contingency? I have to commit myself to him! I think most Christians miss this. They want the desire, but they don’t want to commit to God. They want the gift, not the gift-giver (God himself). For me, I know I will be a mom because the desire to be a mom has come from my seeking of the Lord. The more I seek him, the more the desire he has given me grows.
3 – God is good. This is a core value that I build my theological foundation on. God does not show favoritism. God is not a man who teases or tortures. Numbers 23:19 says, “God is not human, that he should lie, not a human being, that he should change his mind. Does he speak and then not act? Does he promise and not fulfill?” I know God’s heart for me is life and health. I know God is good and because I know those things I don’t have to question that his motives and plans for me are good as well. I know I will become a mom because I have a good, good Father who wants to give me good gifts.
4 – I am God’s Daughter. I am no longer an orphan in this world. Instead, I am his daughter! Usually after I briefly answer the question, “how do you know?” the question that follows is always something like, “well don’t you ever doubt it will happen?” In all honesty, no! I don’t have to question any of God’s plans for me because I am confident in my relationship with him. I don’t have to doubt. I don’t have to fear. I don’t have to beg. I don’t have to waver back and forth wondering. Instead, I get to place all my trust in him and rest in his promises. I know I will become a mom because I am his daughter and he is my perfect Father.
I want to ask you this: If you are questioning God’s plans for you, no matter what it is that you are believing for, what is the root to why you are questioning? Perhaps it’s because you haven’t had a revelation that you are adopted as his child? Maybe it’s a trust issue which leads to living in fear and unbelief? Or maybe it’s that you are believing lies about how good your Father is? Whatever it is, I encourage you to renew yourself with the Word of God. Once you know his Word, you will get to know him and when you get to know him you will know he’s a good Father that has amazing plans for you. And as you understand this truth? You too will be confident in walking out in full faith that he will fulfill the very desires that he has put in your heart.
I want to leave you with a few more verses:
“For the Lord God is brighter than the brilliance of a sunrise! Wrapping himself around me like a shield, he is so generous with his gifts of grace and glory. Those who walk along his paths with integrity will never lack one thing they need, for he provides it all!” Psalm 84:11
“If you, imperfect as you are, know how to lovingly take care of your children and give them what’s best, how much more ready is your heavenly Father to give wonderful gifts to those who ask him?” Matthew 7:11-13
“For God does not show favoritism.” Romans 2:11
“For no matter how many promises God has made, they are “Yes” in Christ. And so through him the “Amen” is spoken by us to the glory of God.” 2 Corinthians 1:20
“This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him.” 1 John 5:14-15
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
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